Just say it!

Forgiveness can be a difficult thing. But what may be even more difficult is being the one to say you're sorry first. Especially, shortly after an event has occurred. Especially, if the other person was actively involved in the hurtful event. The Word says that we should not let the sun go down while still angry. Meaning it is better to resolve an issue quickly, in the same day. This is true since time can cause more damage in the way of bitterness and resentment. This is when it is so hard to let pride down and just say it--sorry. Finding compassion may be our lives' mission. The whole issue doesn't need to be rehashed. You can tell that by the first event. Trying to rehash it would be considered insanity; doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Insanity. Look it up. Yeah, crazy! Don't be suprised if it doesn't go as well as planned. Some people are not receptive to apologies. Y'know the type that always have to have the last word. Yeah, them. It can get ugly if both are of this sort! (I confess, I was one) They'll probably say something and, that may be hurtful too. Still, press on. Only a few words are needed--I am sorry. Don't invest yourself in anger, it's not a good thing. Say you're sorry if you can, and mean it. Then let it lay. You said what you needed to. You did what you came to do. You came, you said, you conquered! That's all you need to know. Let them do their thing. Blah, blah, blah. You may have to try letting it go in one ear and out the other. Those who have learned this technique early in life have a special ability that comes in handy at this point. Others will have to suck it up for peace sake. After time, you'll learn to deal. Know that you did your part to restore peace. This is empowering, do it for yourself and your health. This idea isn't new but, obviously, not everyone participates. It really is a better way to go. It seems often when there's an argument, what seems to be the problem might not really be the problem anyway, there may be an underlying issue. So, arguing about whatever the trial arguement was about may be truly fruitless anyway. A particular event, word, or something triggered the event. It may take more time to get to the source of that issue. And, that calls for love and caution to work it out. But, ultimately, seeking peace is best for all. Peace.